A bill of rights for confidence, self-esteem and assertiveness

This list was given to me some time ago and I use it as a reminder for some clients who may not know what their basic rights are when working with self-esteem, confidence or assertiveness. Sometimes I use it just to remind clients of who they are.  You don’t have to use this list, why not write your own?

1. I have the right to ask for what I want

2. I have the right to. say no to requests or demands I can’t meet.

3. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.

4. I have the right to change my mind.

5. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.

6. I have the right to follow my own values and standards.

7. I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe or it violates my values.

8. I have the right to determine my own priorities.

9. I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behaviour, actions, feelings or problems

10. I have the right to expect honesty from others.

11. I have the right to be angry at someone I love.

12. I have the right to be uniquely myself.

13. I have the right to feel scared and say ‘I’m afraid.’

14. I have the right to say ‘I don’t know’.

15. I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behaviour.

16. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.

17. I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.

18. I have the right to be playful and frivolous.

19. I have the right to be healthier than those around me.

20. I have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.

21. I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.

22. I have the right to change and grow.

23. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.

24. I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.

25. I have the right to be happy.