A bill of rights for confidence, self-esteem and assertiveness
A bill of rights for confidence, self-esteem and assertiveness
This list was given to me some time ago and I use it as a reminder for some clients who may not know what their basic rights are when working with self-esteem, confidence or assertiveness. Sometimes I use it just to remind clients of who they are. You don’t have to use this list, why not write your own?
1. I have the right to ask for what I want
2. I have the right to. say no to requests or demands I can’t meet.
3. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.
4. I have the right to change my mind.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
6. I have the right to follow my own values and standards.
7. I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe or it violates my values.
8. I have the right to determine my own priorities.
9. I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behaviour, actions, feelings or problems
10. I have the right to expect honesty from others.
11. I have the right to be angry at someone I love.
12. I have the right to be uniquely myself.
13. I have the right to feel scared and say ‘I’m afraid.’
14. I have the right to say ‘I don’t know’.
15. I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behaviour.
16. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
17. I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
18. I have the right to be playful and frivolous.
19. I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
20. I have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.
21. I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
22. I have the right to change and grow.
23. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
24. I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.
25. I have the right to be happy.